Feet on Solid Ground............
I had a good weekend. I spent most of it studying. My friend turned the Big 25 on Saturday. On Sunday she invited some people over for dinner. We had a great time eating and sharing. I love times like that. Unfortunately, my wisdom tooth is growing in and it hurts
Lately my heart has been on fire for God. I can’t really describe it, but I just feel so good and blessings have been happening everyday.
There’s a guy who likes me, but we are not compatible. We had a long talk about religion and intimacy w/Christ. I invited him to church, but he feels that he parties, sleeps with, and watches people who go there get drunk on the weekends, and then those same people ask him to go to church. He said he wouldn’t go and wonders what the pastor is teaching these people. I guess he failed to realize that the woman he is trying to get with belongs to a church, is convicted, and tries hard to lead by example. I told him that just because people claim to be Christians doesn’t mean they are saved or submitted to God. Anyone can go to church. I also said that you constantly ask me why I don't have sex outside of marriage anymore or drink anymore. There’s your answer. I can’t convict you if I do, and my actions and words can turn you off to God and worshiping God in church. I don't believe that people who drink are sinning or going to hell. It doesn't say that in the Bible. However, I'm just cautious. I don't want someone to think that since I drink, they can and drinking happens to cause that person to do things they wouldn't normally do. The stigma associated with drinking has the power to label church folks who drink as "she ain't really doing right." Besides that I realized that I never liked alcohol, I just drank because everyone else was, and it allowed me to excuse certain behaviors. I lead by example. I also told him I know plenty people who are leading by example and I'd be happy to introduce you.
He said.....I like you and I thought you were a good woman when I first met you and because of that I know that I have to have my stuff together to get with you. He said he’s trying, but he knows that I don’t like him because of the crew he hangs with (it’s not that, his personality just isn't compatible with mine). He said I’m the type of woman he is going marry, but he’s not ready to get married now. He said he is sleeping with someone who likes him, but he doesn’t like her. I told him that every time he is sleeping with her is taking from her and hurting her, and I don’t keep friends who hurt people. I told him that I liked him only as a friend and that I couldn’t be his friend as long as he was in that situation. He said he understood. It was peaceful and we are cool, just not friends. I asked him why he doesn’t like her and he said he did, but once they did it he lost the attraction.
Why is it that the same people who say all people in church are hypocrites or that they lose attraction to a girl after they sleep with her are the same people who question me for not taking part in certain worldly activities? They pressure me to do certain things, but the minute I do I become another messed up hypocrite person in church. I won’t give them that right!!!!!!
