Feet on Solid Ground............
I had a good weekend. I spent most of it studying. My friend turned the Big 25 on Saturday. On Sunday she invited some people over for dinner. We had a great time eating and sharing. I love times like that. Unfortunately, my wisdom tooth is growing in and it hurts
Lately my heart has been on fire for God. I can’t really describe it, but I just feel so good and blessings have been happening everyday.
There’s a guy who likes me, but we are not compatible. We had a long talk about religion and intimacy w/Christ. I invited him to church, but he feels that he parties, sleeps with, and watches people who go there get drunk on the weekends, and then those same people ask him to go to church. He said he wouldn’t go and wonders what the pastor is teaching these people. I guess he failed to realize that the woman he is trying to get with belongs to a church, is convicted, and tries hard to lead by example. I told him that just because people claim to be Christians doesn’t mean they are saved or submitted to God. Anyone can go to church. I also said that you constantly ask me why I don't have sex outside of marriage anymore or drink anymore. There’s your answer. I can’t convict you if I do, and my actions and words can turn you off to God and worshiping God in church. I don't believe that people who drink are sinning or going to hell. It doesn't say that in the Bible. However, I'm just cautious. I don't want someone to think that since I drink, they can and drinking happens to cause that person to do things they wouldn't normally do. The stigma associated with drinking has the power to label church folks who drink as "she ain't really doing right." Besides that I realized that I never liked alcohol, I just drank because everyone else was, and it allowed me to excuse certain behaviors. I lead by example. I also told him I know plenty people who are leading by example and I'd be happy to introduce you.
He said.....I like you and I thought you were a good woman when I first met you and because of that I know that I have to have my stuff together to get with you. He said he’s trying, but he knows that I don’t like him because of the crew he hangs with (it’s not that, his personality just isn't compatible with mine). He said I’m the type of woman he is going marry, but he’s not ready to get married now. He said he is sleeping with someone who likes him, but he doesn’t like her. I told him that every time he is sleeping with her is taking from her and hurting her, and I don’t keep friends who hurt people. I told him that I liked him only as a friend and that I couldn’t be his friend as long as he was in that situation. He said he understood. It was peaceful and we are cool, just not friends. I asked him why he doesn’t like her and he said he did, but once they did it he lost the attraction.
Why is it that the same people who say all people in church are hypocrites or that they lose attraction to a girl after they sleep with her are the same people who question me for not taking part in certain worldly activities? They pressure me to do certain things, but the minute I do I become another messed up hypocrite person in church. I won’t give them that right!!!!!!
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Wow. You have the most random and wild conversations. "He may be a pastor one day". Did he really say that? I can't stop laughing right now.
It's funny how people can see the good in you, be attracted to the good in you, but expect you to tolerate the bad things in them. If he likes the moral values that you hold I can't fathom how he could expect you to lower those values for the things he is doing. Just crazy I tell you.
Good points. He said he wants a woman who both goes to church and believes in God, although he doesn't attend a chuch. I was thinking is she supposed to go by herself while you chill at home.
The deleted comment was by me. I accidentally included a name.
Wow! Pure humor!
I remember reading once that even an man of sin wants a woman of God because he knows she good and of good. And that is why men and women must be equally yoked when pursuing a relationship.
This man knows you would treat him the way a man would want to be treated. He knows you have to answer to God, but he doesn't, therefore, treating you as he sees fit (as seen by his current situation.)
But consider yourself blessed that you can hear the real words that man was saying. Discernment is truly a blessing!
Forgo my name! That was me Z!
So many things I want to say but I don't know where to begin. I will say that it is great seeing you strong in your belief in God and Christ. I learn so much just by reading your blog. I also want to say was this man/boy even listening to you or paying attention to any of your qualities? I don't understand most men especially this one. I am happy that you saw through the ignorance/stupidity/whatever it was and moved on from even a friendship with him. Maybe he will learn that the woman he is sleeping with deserves better and either leave her alone or at least let her know how he feels. If he isn't ready to leave her alone maybe it should be her decision to leave him alone.
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